Gay Sex is Magical

Magic… the act of Transformation of Consciousness at Will

This is what queers do.  When we get together with a shared intention we weave our emotional and sexual energies in ways that create atmospheres, in which magical experiences happen.  Cavernous railway arches become nirvanic dance venues.  Cellars become incredible sex  dungeons.  Park toilets become sex temples.  Woodland cruising areas become Pan’s Arcadia.  Sometimes we take drugs to enhance the experience, and once again we are performing that very act of magic, as defined by Doreen Valiente, English witch prominent in the revival  of the craft from the 1950s in the UK, the act of Transforming Consciousness at Will.

Thing is, there is more to this magic stuff than getting a good fuck.  Sexual energy is powerful when directed through will and especially when empowered by love, as Alistair Crowley discovered.  “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law” said Alistair and we could say that many gay men running around on the chemsex  scene at the moment are followers of his creed.  In particular an absence of care and compassion for each other is glaringly apparent, our scenes can be very abusive. It would be better if the ‘Wiccan Rede’ as spoken by Doreen Valiente was deeper in our consciousness  – a few decades after Alistair’s wild experiments in magic Doreen gave us this: “And it harm none, do what ye will.”  We could trace a root for this creed back to St Augustine in the 4^th Century AD, who wrote “Dilige, et quod vis fac”, which can be translated as “Love, and do what you will.”  The Free Spirit movements of the Middle Ages developed this into a belief that a soul in a state of love union with god could not sin, whatever they did, a belief the Catholic church took great pains to eradicate.

The forces unleashed in our sexual games can turn out to be stronger than our wills, and is why we also need strong love in our hearts to balance the demanding energies of lust.  The sexual drive, or the urge to get high, can take over our lives.  Never before in recorded human history have men been as free to have sex with each other, shamelessly and promiscuously, as we are now.  AIDS didn’t destroy our new found liberation, though HIV certainly held it back a while.  Now, thanks to PEP and PrEP and undetectable viral loads, that liberation is spinning so fast, out of control for increasing numbers.  GAY MEN ARE PLAYING WITH THE CREATIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE POWERS OF THE UNIVERSE, OPENING THE GATES TO FORCES BEYOND OUR CONTROL, INVOKING DEMONS AND  ENTITIES WITH NO IDEA WHAT TO DO WITH THEM.  Those demons may simply exist within our own beings, or not, but I use  the word to describe dark, hungry, insatiable, destructive forces that can suck away at a person’s soul until we are left emotionless, friendless and empty.  There is rather a lot of this going on, it’s less visible than AIDS, but it is also devastating –  a kind of soul death, though the physical shell, the zombie, lives on.

Gay sex clubs and saunas may disappear, our cottages have closed and our parks are quiet, but more men are cruising than ever before.  We cruise on our phones now.  The sexual urge can be pursued at any moment in any place by anyone. This is a sexual liberation that the world has not seen before. But good magic doesn’t just come from sex.  It comes from our connection to nature, from how we connect to each other, and to ourselves.  Unfortunately too much of the action on the sex scene seems to feed a sense of disconnect and isolation, it is not good magic at all.

The chase is exciting.  The liberation is … liberating.  The pleasures to be had are… unlimited.  The big lie of the scientific paradigm is that pleasure is a just an irrelevant by-product of human life.  Pleasure is rather a core principle of nature.  The glorious diversity and joy in nature surely reveals that?  Life is not all about functionality.  It is also about sensation, pleasure, bliss, union and communion.

A key to working our queer way out of the mess some of gay life seems to be heading deeper into is LOVE.  Not necessarily finding a monogamous partner and shielding ourselves  from  the world’s temptations… it’s more that we need to acknowledge that we have big hearts and that the love in us, just like the sexual joy in us, wants to expand and grow – infinitely.  We are capable to loving many, loving the whole world.  It is the love we carry as queer souls that empowers our magic, our ability to create fabulous zones of creativity, play and release.  When we learn to love ourselves first and bring love to our sex games and love to do all we do then the dark forces that eat away at us will abate.  Loneliness, insecurity, drive our games.  But so does the search to experience, expand and know love.  When we choose to meet each other in order to share love as well as lust we open energy channels that infinitely heighten the experience.  Drugs then will cease to have such a hold.  I once wrote on my Grindr profile… “Chems are a substitute for love… Let’s have more love in our sex games”.  But for some reason this was not allowed by the grindr censor.

Actually, the  greatest single drive behind the massive drug use going on in gay men’s lives in some places, and the equation of sex with drug use, seems to be a wish for uninhibited abandon and surrender to the sexual urge. Drugs switch off the critical mind, which can lead to some poor decision making and severe risk taking, but they allow men to experience themselves as the utterly crazed and liberated sex slut they maybe dream of being.  So I suggest there are two huge steps we could take as gay men to overcome this harrowing and difficult part of our evolution:

• OVERCOME INHIBITION. This is an individual challenge for each man who wants to feel sexually free, but could be encouraged by ‘public health’ campaigns similar to the safe sex message that we used to be bombarded with from every direction.   We need public campaigns celebrating the liberation that comes from ditching the shame, fear and guilt we carry around sex, that rejoice in arse licking and cock sucking as forms of divine meditation.  “I get so high from having good sex I know drugs would only mess it up” would be the message.
• VIEW SEX AS MAGIC. Magic is the Art of Transformation of Consciousness at Will. Magic, like sex, shifts our emotional and mental energies into new places.  Through the body’s sensations we can enter elevated states of consciousness –  and increased awareness of chakras, of the play of the elements within us, and of the potential in our hearts to give unconditional love, will take our sex games ever further into magical realms.

I meet guys in their 20s who lament that gay sex has become a drug fuelled pastime in their adult lifetime.   If at that age they can remember a simpler time, we have not come very far down this dark tunnel.  I am not trying to deny that drugs can add to the sexual experience, I am simply observing that what we really seek will not be found via a tina pipe or bump of meph.  We can use enhancements if we choose, but they are a lot more fun if we actually know what we are doing sexually.  And if we really know what we are doing, and are free of the inhibitions that restrict our joy, the drugs will perhaps become a distraction, a hindrance, something easily left behind.

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